Nowadays, not only in Bangladesh, but also in Bangladeshi immigrant families abroad, the tendency to kill oneself is increasing at an alarming rate; Cum suicide;
Before this Corona, in Toronto, Canada, a boy from York University, suffering from severe depression, killed three generations including his grandmother, mother, father and sister; What was the age of the boy!
The same thing happened a few days back in Texas and Canada, where three generations of victims, two siblings, the whole family died themselves;
Why this destructive attitude !!
Mother of immigrant doctor; As a mother of teenage children, I was deeply saddened by the destructive process of Bangladeshi young children, at home and abroad, that really bothered me, shocked me, and frightened me.
To every generation of people their own generation is the best; Ninety-nine Peruvian old women will say that her period is the best; Our generation will claim its own time as the golden time; So will our generation of children; In fact, it is absurd to debate which generation is the best; Not only sound education but his alertness and dedication too are most required. The naming of the generations is as follows:
Generation naming
Lost Generation183-1900
Greatest Generation1901-1927, (American journalist and author Tom Broca first used the term ‘Greatest Generation’ in honor of World War II Sons and Veterans.)
Silent Generation1928-1945
Baby Boomers1947-1984
X Generation / Forgotten middle child1975-1980
Y Generation / Millennials1971-1996
G Generation / zoomers / i Generation1997-2012
Generation Alpha2013 – Onward
Types of Generation
After World War II, the Baby Boomers generation slowly dreamed of building houses, cultivating, raising livestock and building a permanent home; They are also concerned about their children’s future, education, economy; They are Descendant Generation, X Generation; That is, we, the mothers and fathers of today’s teenage children.
X Generation (1985-1970)
We, the X Generations, have been concerned with intermediate social problems; Global nervous tension, nuclear threads, instability around the world, tensions, insecurity, everything has affected our thinking consciousness and sense of life, some of the most drastic social changes in history, tainted social divisions have occurred in our generation;
We are the generation of uncertainty; For security we have become medical engineers, senior officers, built properties, bank balances; We have developed cultural practices in the interest of self-assurance;
We are a generation of skeptics; Although highly educated from other generations, the breakdown of world society has taught us to think critically.
In our time the world community has been divided indiscriminately; Humanity has knocked on the door; The threat of nuclear war has darkened our bright future.
G Generation (1996-2012)
On the other hand, the generation of our children, the G generation, these twenty-one who are aged twenty-three to eight; They grew up in technology, the Internet and social media, enriching the world with information;
Becoming more aware from previous generations; At times, they have become technology-addicted as well as non-communal or “social justice fighters.”
This generation is the youngest, the most ethno-diverse and the largest generation in history.
This G-generation is nothing like the X-generation, that is, their parents; Social consciousness, thought consciousness, even education thought, nothing.
The G-Generation, from buying and selling, to making sense of life or arranging life, gives more importance to friends after the influence of internet, which is also known as word of mouth marketing.
As students, they have the purchasing power, they think of doing something like themselves. About half of Generation G’s young people will quit their jobs if they have the opportunity to do business, or to do something like their own.
Their minds are liberal, they don’t care much about different religions or social issues, they connect with the world through information and communication technology, they are environmentally conscious.
They are more accustomed to online shopping or e-banking, accustomed to Instagram or YouTube, not Facebook or e-mail.
We, the very conservative X-generation, are taking care of our children, the G-generation; So what do I do? I will, of course; We will;
Before that we need to know how many parents we evaluate their emotional health; I think about mental health as well as physical health; How many parents understand the counseling thing; How Many Parents Really Understand Quality Time ??
It is our ignorance, we blame the family whenever something goes wrong; The Boli family did not notice; There was no harmony in the family; There were problems in the family; It is our old disease; The world no longer stops at the old place.
No family is indifferent to children; Does not neglect; Trying to make the child human with their best as much as possible;
In addition to fathers, mothers now give much effort, to make children human;
But is it the result of suicide, social ignorance or over-caring attitude, or conservatism?
They are digitalized, in their hands now online world, information, friends, education, jobs, the future, how do I monitor them?
They don’t have to go out, they can hang out at home, chat with friends in silence;
I don’t know who they are mixing with, what they are talking about. Say, the study group is doing the study; As Anuska of Dihan in Kalabagan said; How many times should I check? Too much check will lead to suicide;
If you don’t check, you will be ruined, you will be raped or raped somewhere; Will die of intoxication; Internet addiction is also a death addiction; Silently, it is engulfing us, the young children, in a horrible way, before we even realize it.
Friends will not mingle with the news of the child, will say your parent sniffs, grandparents, the child will be put in a room by his friends; The child will suffer from inferiority complex and depression;
Friends will tell you that your parents are suspicious of you; The child’s eyes must become dictator; The child will become rude and reckless;
If you are a detective, the child will not read, will not listen to advice, will be arrogant, angry, then terrible consequences, maybe suicide. An unstability is going on all around; A time of turmoil;
After the after-effects of an earthquake, such as after a few more aftershocks, the ground freezes; These are the shocks of an unscrupulous society; Who knows how many more lives will be lost in the shock of this unscrupulous society;
Southeast Asians, or Brown parents, want our children to be human in our ideology, we forget that they are the next generation, if they are to be ruled by intimidation or harsh rule, there is a strong possibility that the opposite will happen;
G Generation More Confident Den X; We should understand their mentality, value their faith, respect the thoughts of their generation; Trusting them for their goodwill, paying attention to their emotional health.
How? Seals communication gaps, with counseling, conversations and quality time; Who considers their challenges as their own challenges;
In this case, the communication gap is responsible for a large part; We think we have no gaps with our baby;
Yes, how many hours in twenty-four hours can we talk to our child? If not here’s a new product just for you!
What we usually talk about; Like, how are you? How are you How was your day What do you play? Where did you go? What to eat? Have breakfast? How is your study Is everything alright? Went to school? Did you go to coaching? Is there a rent? Lunch money? Erramak thousands of all passing or lecturing type talk;
The child does not want to hear me passing or lecturing; The child wants quality time.
How many of us understand what is quality time?
When the child and the parent, everyone will enjoy that time, and so will the child Eleven, waiting for another episode of Time, that will be Quality Time;
Ten minutes in twenty-four hours and we do not spend quality time with the child in that way, or do not get the topic to do, except for the purposeful talk.
With a friend, time is of the essence; Both of them enjoy the moment. This is quality time;
Older version of the way children think, parents won’t understand, or take things easy, or they’ll have trouble hearing,
Let me make it easier; The child may have a liking somewhere, or, the child may not want to study engineering or medical, may have a chance to qualify, but the child still wants a life of peace or a year off; Like himself, he wants his own trouble-free education, he wants peace.
We, the parents, then, without paying attention to their mental issues, think about showing our face in the society, by burning their will, imposing our own will on them;
Or, the kid is out of the course, unable to open; Suffering from depression, struggling with mental health, not paying attention; I will be fine in time;
What happened in Canada, when Zaman killed three generations; Texas also had access to readily available weapons.
When immigrating with a teenage child, one has to face many hostile experiences; Immigration is a huge issue, uprooting the search for new roots;
Hormonal surge in children during puberty,
A lot of personality development develops; Creates its own world, identity;
At that age, it is very difficult for them to just sit on the shackled gad, from the familiar surroundings, to uproot them, to adapt to the new environment;
In the new environment, their surroundings become empty, suffering from identity crisis and cultural shock, and silently withdraw from their surroundings;
Many suffer from depression, which manifests itself through anger, arrogance or noncooperation with parents, and many have suicidal tendencies.
Being an immigrant with my teenage daughter, I also had to gain a lot of speed;
With her quality time, while evaluating her wishes, gradually I had to be antisocial, my daughter has become a little bit social;
Luckily I could drive, and he didn’t like gathering; Somewhere in the distance on a long drive, he liked to listen to music at a louder volume,
Wanted to walk on the shores of the lake, enjoy movies with family, google, learn to make new food, with quality time all the time, being a shadow like a friend; Maybe the superior was pleased;
Immigrant parents think that the language barrier with the child has a huge impact on the communication gap, which is not true at all; This is a misconception of parents.
There is a communication gap problem, but it is not in the language but in the content. They are not clear about the content; They are hidden in the concept of East and West content.
Remember, content of the communication is the main barrier not the language. Content of the communication gap is the huge gap.
Immigrant children born or raised abroad face constant, multifaceted challenges outside the home;
Through many challenging issues, they have to move forward;
There are challenges of culture, religion, language and belief outside the home; There is the identity crisis and the challenge of cultural shock at every step:
Children have to follow the culture of Bangladesh even if they become citizens of all those countries; It’s kind of ridiculous to be submerged in water, but not wet; Which leaves a strong impression on their minds; They are citizens of that country, we often forget that.
This challenge can be consciously overcome with quality time.
Mental health is a healing procedure; Trauma is not just a cure. Counseling, conversations, quality takes time, too; Awareness and Education of Mental Health, in fact, has no alternative;
This problem is not family; The problem is overall; The problem is social; Impressions are gained in a fluid, global, diffused way. Victims are tender-hearted children; Sometimes we lose ourselves in the clutches of a torn pulse;
Now is the time to become aware and protect the society, the family and the children from the scourge of suicide; With us also from the curse of homicide, otherwise, will the temple survive in the city pudle !!
AuthorDr. Dahlia; M-26
(Professor Anatomy; Public Health Specialist, Mental Health Expert and Researcher, Gerontologist)
Toronto, Canada
NA / 11 April
